Parents... Let's Talk About Race

The topic of racial prejudices can be really hard for white adoptive parents to address. How does one start a conversation on something you might not fully understand? What if your child is not facing racial prejudice and they are not wanting to talk about it? What if I don’t have all the right answers to the hard questions my kids have about why racial prejudices happen?

No matter what your reason is for putting it off, it is time to start having those conversations! Not talking about racial prejudices does not make them go away or prepare your child for what they might face. Your child might be facing racism but not feel comfortable to talk to you about it. Here are some suggestions to think about as you start the conversation as a family:

  • Educate Yourself! As a white person you will never understand what it is like to be a person of color in America. You need to educate yourself on what you don’t know or understand. It is your job as a parent of an interracial adoptee to be an educated ally. Make it a priority to have this be a lifetime journey. As your child grows up seeing you educate yourself, they also see that you are trying to support them in things they might experience.

Dealing With Racism by Beth Hall

The Realities of Raising a Kid of a Different Race by Karen Valby

White Fragility by Robin Diangelo

  • Know you will never understand. As a parent, we only want to protect our kids and relate as they go through something hard. The hardest thing sometimes for a parent is to admit they cannot help or u