By Emily Williams, Korea Adoptive Mom
For most adoptive families, quarantine or family isolation is nothing new. After all when we brought our children home, in order to facilitate bonding and adjustment, most of us spent time in family isolation and quarantine. I’m almost certain it was an adoptive Mom who invented the “porch drop” as a way to receive essential supplies while in isolation.
As my family began to isolate to slow the spread of COVID-19, I quickly recognized the feelings that were cropping up among my family members. Feelings or overwhelm, uncertainty, fear and at times helplessness seemed like an old group of friends we hadn’t seen for a while. Once I realized that we had survived isolation as a family twice before, some of my feelings were eased, I knew we could get through. At the time however, I don’t think I realized all of the similarities between the times before and now and I sure didn’t realize some of the benefits.
Like our previous times of isolation, keeping our world small was essential. We have one set of Grandparents that live close by and one who doesn’t. After a time of isolation, we were able to see the relatives that lived close. The time separated from the not so near relatives makes out heart ache and reminds us of a time we once had trouble traveling just a little over an hour a way to see our family because it was too hard on our son. Thinking back on that time and knowing it was temporary, has helped us with our most recent separation.
Just as before, time together as a family bonded us. Since our youngest came home at two and a half, our boys did not have the advantage of knowing each other from birth. I felt like my sons had a close bond, but my husband and I knew it could be closer. We prayed for this to happen. During the past few months of isolation, they had no other friends except each other and we began to notice that their brotherly bond growing closer. The “I Love You”, hugs and giggles were suddenly common place.